New subject: [Callers] Fw: Shadow Swing Disclaimers?

8 Sep 2015

I'm going to go with Andrea's well-written note on this.  I understand that the
goal is to prevent people from dancing with people who really make them uncomfortable
(i.e. creepers).  However, if you suggest "if you need to make changes, do so
now", that will open up the potential for people to refuse a shadow for ANY reason
(they smell, they're too fat, they're too old, they're not my BFF, they're
the same gender, they're a beginner, whatever), and that could cause a whole world of
hurt - especially in a community where we welcome all and celebrate differences in
people.  There is no graceful way to do this, really, that I can think of.  

For the most part, if there is someone that a person does not want to encounter in a
dance, much less be a shadow, that person will find a different line to dance in.  At
least that has been my experience.  Callers should not be encouraging people to find
someone "better" than the potluck shadow that they got.  I would suggest not
calling a dance with a shadow swing - that would ward off potential problems with shadows
people don't want to swing and also prevent the hurt that would come with suggesting
people make changes for whatever reason.  

Perry

      From: Maia McCormick via Callers &lt;callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net&gt;
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 Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2015 11:06 AM
 Subject: [Callers] Shadow Swing Disclaimers?

Hey all,
First, a disclaimer: Some people on this listserv thing shadow swings are problematic.
Some don't see any issue with them. This is NOT the conversation I want to have in
this thread; I ask that you respond to the question I'm asking and do not debate my
premise--at least not in this particular thread. This should help keep this thread on
track and hopefully reduce excess noise and go-nowhere discussions on this listserv.
Thanks!
Anyway, the actual question I wanted to ask (whew!)--
There do exist some really fabulous shadow-swing dances that I would love to be able to
call, as long as I could do so without putting anyone in an uncomfortable position. Do
folks have ideas for ways to mitigate the potential harms of shadow swing dances? I was
considering, at the beginning of the dance, having dancers identify their shadow and
mentioning, "this will be a shadow swing dance, so if you need to make any changes,
do so now" (or something like that)--haven't gotten the wording down-pat, but the
idea is giving dancers advance warning of a shadow swing so they can move (thereby
changing their shadow) if they need to. Any thoughts on this method? Suggestions of
others?
Cheers.Maia
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